You're Not Crazy. You're Human.

“I know I’m crazy for thinking this, but...” 

“I’m just crazy, right?”

If I had a dollar for every time I heard a woman say some version of that in session, I’d be writing this blog from a beachfront vacation home.

But here’s what I always say in response: “Who told you that?” “What defines crazy?”

The truth is, you’re not crazy. You’re tired. You’re overwhelmed. You’re under-supported. You’re doing too much with too little help. You’re feeling big feelings—ones that deserve to be named, not dismissed.

As a therapist and a mom, I see firsthand how women—especially mothers—internalize the message that their very real emotions are “too much.” We’ve been conditioned to believe that if we’re not smiling through the chaos, if we lose our patience, cry in the car, have anxious or scary thoughts about our kids, or dare to say “this is too hard,” then we must be insane.

But let me be very clear: You are not crazy. Your thoughts are a very normal response to an overwhelming set of expectations in a scary world.

The pressures on mothers are relentless. Be calm. Be patient. Be perfect. Be grateful. Don’t stress. Don’t complain. Don’t worry about things that probably won’t happen. And if you do? Well, clearly, you’re crazy.

That word—crazy—has become a catch-all term for any emotion that makes others uncomfortable or can’t be easily explained away. And women often say it because you haven’t been given the space or vocabulary to name what you’re really feeling.

But if you dig a little deeper, you find it.

What lives under “crazy” are the true emotions:

• Stress about holding everything together.

• Burnout from being “on” 24/7.

• Anxiety about your kids, your partner, your finances.

  
  

And so you default to calling yourself crazy because it feels easier than being vulnerable—or because the people around you haven’t created a safe space to go deeper. Sometimes your partners don’t know how to talk about emotions or their own fleeting thoughts, so you end up dismissing your own. Sometimes you’re surrounded by women doing the same thing, and the “crazy” label becomes a quiet badge of survival.

But it’s time to change that.

Here’s what I want you to do:

1. Stop calling yourself crazy. You are not. You’re human. Your feelings and thoughts are valid. And as long as the scary ones come and eventually pass, you are just like everyone else.

2. Name what’s underneath. Are you tired? Angry? Anxious? Uncertain? Burnt Out? Naming it gives you power.

3. Empower other women. The next time a friend calls herself crazy, pause and gently say, “No, you’re not. What are you actually feeling?”

   
   

If you’ve ever caught yourself whispering “I must be crazy” in the middle of a meltdown, a school pickup, or a silent moment before bed—I want you to know something: It’s not you. You’re normal.

You're not broken. You're not unstable. You're not overreacting.

What you are is human.

What you need is support.

What you deserve is to feel whole again—and to be validated by other people who can recognize that anxious, worried, and overwhelmed thoughts come and they go, and that’s all part of the typical modern motherhood experience. 

So let’s call this what it really is: the impact of unrealistic expectations, emotional labor, and being asked to function without rest, space, or real connection as a human being living in today’s world. Your thoughts are not the problem. They are proof that you need to do things with the right support.

You are not crazy. And you are allowed to ask for help.

I’m offering free 15-minute consultations to create a space where you can speak freely—no judgment, no labels—just a moment to breathe, be heard, and explore whether therapy might be the next right step for you. Don’t wait for a breakdown to begin to feel better. You deserve to feel supported, steady, and seen—right now, exactly as you are. Book Yours HERE.